In our culture, or cultures that particularly emphasize an objective, non-relational, unemotional paradigm, our feelings tend to be much maligned and denigrated. In fact, in this U.S. culture we go to the extreme of seeking to suppress and control any emotion/feeling with the drugs created and dispensed by the psychiatric/pharmaceutical industry. We often term or label expressions of feelings, dis-comfort associated with what is happening all around us, lack of community, the growing malaise related to systemic disempowerment plus the inability to fully dispense our gifts, passion and purpose in the world, as 'mental illness' or disorder.
From the boardroom, to the teachings of the "separate observer--fair and impartial" embedded in every system and most science experiments, we are taught to separate our feelings, that which makes us human and divine, from the so-called pratical, unemotional observer able to provide an accurate, fair, unbiased explaination or judgment on any behavior and/or situation. As deeply embedded in this culture as this perspective or belief is, this is simply not true. It is actually not possible. What was understood about the universe by indigneous people's is now finally coming to light again through the science of quantum physics, ecological biology and cybernetics.
This notion of the 'separate observer--non-emotional' is embedded so deeply in this culture we can no longer distinguish that it is merely a belief and not a world-view of total reality. Now some people may stop reading here for this engrained pattern of thinking is so pervasive that the thought that it may not be true will raise a high level of resistance as this belief is pushed against. If this is what is happening for you then before tuning out, dismissing this conversation, making yourself busy, or moving on as you surf the web...STOP.
Resistance is the key to understanding and to our ability to dance with change and the flow of what is occurring in daily life and more. Resistance is the edge where we stand still proclaiming that the world is flat when it is, in 'reality', round. It is on this edge, as we shout into what appears to be the abyss below we will hear, if we listen, the echo from that quiet but powerful voice that whispers about an impending shift in thought...an opening...an opening to heart and a new way of knowing and being...an opening in the mind that begins to see the many doorways, nooks and crannies filled with possibility. Acknowledging resistance through reflection instead of running in the other direction or busy-making can lead to the potential for astonishing transformation to unfold. Begin to take notice of the resistance that arises -- small and large -- throughout your day. This has been a most profound practice for me. The deep denial of our feelings, and the effects that has on those around us as well as their effect on us if they are also engaging in this separation, resistance and denial, is leading us all into the grossly evident disasters and as yet untold disasters showing up more and more predominately in the world around us. Some people are "waking up", but denial, and lack of feeling what is ours to feel, separates us ever more deeply from "ALL Our Relations", and from the divine within enabling and exacerbating the perpetuation of ways of being that are leading to our own extinction along with other species of life.
The advent of the feeling nature and it's voice, whether it is very loud or quietly nudging in it's sometimes uncomfortable way, is merely the voice of our soul, our deepest heart calling us HOME.
As we move forward on this planet it is of utmost importance that we move away from the patterns we were taught in our families of origin, in our educational systems and in the totality of this culture that have sought to suppress, ignore, disassociate/separate us from our feelings. Business practices emphasize this and we have seen the ensuing ecological damage with the destruction of hundreds of thousands of acres of forest and water sources with the Canadian/U.S. Athabasca tar sands, the ongoing BP oil tragedy, and the ongoing Fukishima toxic radioactive water poured into the ocean, along with the financial damage heaped on families, small business and other country's economies by the run-a-way (to be discussed more deeply in the section on understanding systemic thinking) banking/wall street/congressional system that have left many homeless, jobless, with ruined credit and deeply damaged self-esteem.
Many of our sciences and the educational system embeds this separation from our feeling nature in thought and practice. The practice of psychiatry/pharmaceutical industry through psychotropic and neuroleptic drugging seek to suppress, i.e. control behaviors and feelings that we don't want or that disturb us and others because they are not part of the 'status quo' of the way we are told to be in this culture. If feelings are expressed, or we cry, we can be made to feel that we not able to manage our life, nonetheless 'control ourselves' and that we are 'lesser than'. Actually these expressions/behaviors have an awakening effect on others and ourselves that seeks to shift them/us out of denial. When denial is as strong as it is in this culture, we will find many methods and tools to maintain that denial, and in such denial all the important messages that seek to come forth are lost, true healing is circumvented, and disconnection becomes greater. In other words, we feel empty inside -- we are denying the heart and the essence of what makes for an extraordinary life -- the one we are destined to live.
When feelings arise it is cause for celebration! You/we are preparing to take a leap in consciousness.
Get ready as we delve more deeply into the heart of hearts in the subsequent parts of this journey into our feeling nature and the keys of the kingdom, the divine feminine, psychiatry and it's role, and a discussion of our journey to inner knowing vs outer referencing. We will discuss how and why 'outer referencing' is our predominate way of being in this culture and some of the shifts needing to occur to re-weave what has been torn asunder.